Find Your Unique Life on the Difficult Path

Tommy Leung wrote this on Aug 8, 2018
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If you don’t want the life everyone else has then don’t do what everyone else is doing.

I read or heard that somewhere. A long time ago. And it has stuck with me because of its obvious simplicity.

Or phrased another way is the quote often attributed to Albert Einstein:

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

If you do what everyone else is doing then odds are you will get the same results. The only way to get a different result is to do something different.

And usually that is not the path of least resistance.

The path of least resistance is what everyone else is doing. It is a well worn road with niceties and lessons accumulated over time.

It is the path with the most support. People have done it before you. People are doing it with you now. And people will be doing it after you.

“Be fearless. Have the courage to take risks. Go where there are no guarantees. Get out of your comfort zone even if it means being uncomfortable. The road less traveled is sometimes fraught with barricades bumps and uncharted terrain. But it is on that road where your character is truly tested And have the courage to accept that you’re not perfect nothing is and no one is — and that’s OK.”

- Katie Couric

Taking the path less traveled is difficult. Making the choice is not but going through on that decision is.

Quitting a career of climbing the corporate ladder is one such difficult path. Making the decision isn’t that hard. Dreaming of being in control of your own destiny is fun and exciting.

Slogging through the day to day of actually building that life is hard. You trade one set of problems for another.

The difference being that the set of problems on the path of least resistance has easily accessible methods of coping.

The other set of problems is largely up to you to solve.

The problems aren’t necessarily harder to solve. They are just different. There are less people to hold your hand through it. Sometimes there’s absolutely no one.

But it is only on the path of resistance that we can find what we are looking for it isn’t what everyone else has found.

If you are looking for something different than everyone else then you need to look where everyone else isn’t looking.

Getting there will require taking a path of resistance and it will be hard. Knowing that is half the battle.

“Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult-once we truly understand and accept it-then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

- M. Scott Peck